A long time ago…
I was young and eager, you were older and enthusiastic… life had just begun for us together.
Everything you did, I reveled in, everything I did, you appreciated or found amusing.
Time went by and we began settling into our life together… You became busy with work and I was busy adjusting, adapting and adopting. Thus we grew into our roles oblivious of the routine that was beginning to set in.
Some more time went by. You became more & more engrossed with work and I found ways & means to keep myself occupied. We would go out when our schedules permitted.
I tried to work around your programmes – gave you priority but was too naïve to realize that priority is a ‘balance-sensitive’ thing – giving one thing a higher priority automatically lowers another’s.
Then more time went by and we grew into our separate worlds. We cocooned ourselves so perfectly, we forgot to include each other! Now we meet when we can’t come up with justifiable explanations not to.
You look for reasons to stay away & I look for ways to avoid you…
Is this a journey of just a few years? Seems like a lifetime to me…
By
~ Gitanjali Kaul~
Gitanjali
One relationship we must learn to maintain… and that is with ourselves.If that is healthy evry other relationship will bloom automatically..
So true Rupali… Thanks dear.
Thanks Akhil & Deepika ….
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Just thought i’d share the background of this piece … it was the result of someone very close going thru rather turbulent times…..
But all is well now
interestingly i have had a good many responses to this particular piece – and all have the same gist – that it’s a commonplace scenario now …. and so, it’s all the more important to put in extra effort into a marriage – quite like one tends to in their jobs …one of the main difference between the two is that in a marriage, the appraisal is not an annual affair – it’s a daily thing and the reward is not an increase in the income but in the security of the relationship!
Rightly said. All differences can be settled with patient hearing and understanding of the problem.
We are meant to have dialogues and thrash out the problem. All works out well for better.
Cheers and Best Wishes for the future!
Akhil
Hi Gitanjali,
An excellent piece and quite true in today’s context.
Unforunate part is folks tend to take work so seriously that they forget there exists a home, a relationship and last but not the least, EMOTIONS.
The other irony is that folks tend to forget they married a person, and not their work, though not discounting that work should be forsaken.
At the end, the way it will pan out is, have bigger homes, have fancy cars, have all the wealth at the extent of health but HAVE NOT someone to share the smaller joys of life with.
Regards,
Akhil
Pray that dos not happen…
Thanks Akhil ……….
Cheers….!!!
What I meant was a general thing. Don’t worry, such things will not ever occur with you. My prayers and best wishes are always there!
Wonderfully explained today’s fast lifestyle…where we live apart under one roof…
Thanks Deepika…